Many parents find themselves saying these phrases daily, sometimes even hourly to their children. There’s a lot of phrases that are important to say to your children, and then there are the phrases that you shouldn’t tell your children.
“I’m on a diet.”
It’s common to diet years after delivering your children, but it’s important to keep this to yourself. If your child starts to see their parent stepping on the scale every day and hears them talking about being fat, they may develop an unhealthy body image themselves. If a parent takes a different approach and tells a child they want to eat healthy because it makes them feel better, that’s entirely different.
If your little one falls down and hurts themselves, crying hysterically you may want to reassure them that they aren’t badly hurt. Telling your little one that their fine, and they need to just get up, will oftentimes make them feel worse. It’s important to be there to help your little one understand and deal with the feelings they have, not discredit them. Acknowledge your child’s hurt boo-boo, and ask if they need a bandage and for you to kiss it.
This phrase is thrown around all too much these days. Every time a child masters a skill, and parents say these phrases, children start to gain dependence on a parent’s affirmation rather than their own motivation. It’s important to be specific and say “You can,” do something, rather than “Nice try.”
Your child goes slowly at practically everything they do, insisting on clothing themselves, tying their own shoes, and you find yourself running late almost always. Pushing your child and making them feel as if they need to hurry will only create additional stress where it isn’t needed. Instead of always pointing the finger and telling them to hurry, say “ Let’s hurry,” which tells them you both are on the same page.
“Practice makes perfect.”
This phrase is partly true, but this can make them constantly focus on winning or excelling. It gives your child the message that they didn’t work hard enough do get what they deserve. They will constantly focus on what is wrong with them, rather than being encouraged to work harder to improve whatever their trying to achieve.
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