Ten Truths About Sex After Birth
Asking women about how their sex life was like after giving birth is like letting lose a dam in the spring. It was amazing how many women really felt a need to talk about this to someone. While some of the truths discussed weren’t surprising, some really were to anyone who has never gone through the situation. Giving birth changes you, that was a given. But sex after birth is also a whole new game in many unexpected ways. Here’s a taste of what was learned.
- Make Plans for Sex After Birth – Spontaneous sex just went out the window with the addition of that bundle of joy so plan ahead. Get your parents to babysit or make sure baby is fed, dry and down for a few hours. The first time back in the saddle you do not want interruptions.
- It Can Be Painful – Sometimes even a whole tube of lubricant won’t help, so make sure your partner knows to be gentle and patient. If you were stitched, remember that things are gonna be tight.
- Wounds Shouldn’t Reopen – This fear is common with women, but believe it or not if you have waited the right amount of time you should be fine. Just be prepared for some red sheets the first time or two.
- Breastfeeding and Sex After Birth – It can be confusing for some women to use their breasts in two very different ways. Some women find it sexy, some find it discomforting. Work with whatever works for you.
- What Sex Drive? – Many women have a hard time wanting sex after birth, while others can’t wait to get back into bed with their partner. As for heading to bed for sleep; just see the next point for that one.
- Sex vs Sleep – Believe me, in the beginning at least sleep will always win. No matter how sexy he looks to you, sleep will call like the demanding child she is. That’s probably because you will never have enough of it the first six months or so.
- Some Women Fear Sex After Birth – If you are feel trepidations about sex after birth, give it some time. Talk to your partner about it. Time heals, but some need more than others.
- Expect Parent Stress – Being a parent has its own set of rules, so expect that there will be times when right in the middle of sex, you worry. Let it go, but recognize it for the new reality that it is.
- Your Body Image Takes a Dive – It is hard to forgive your body sometimes for making these massive changes, but try. You may not see a sexy body, but if your husband does, give him the benefit of the doubt about it. Love your body; it has gone through a lot lately.
- It Gets Better – No matter what obstacles you run into, physical ones, mental ones, timing ones, it gets better. We find new rhythms to our lives and for many women sex after birth is more exciting. Trust in that and it will come back tenfold.
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