Saying No Without Saying The Word
According to experts, parents are saying no a total of 400 times a day. Studies have shown that when parents say no too much, they harm their children because language skills aren’t being broadened. It’s important to give your child positive feedback and explain to them why they can’t have or do something that is off limits.
Saying no can be the easiest form of discipline a parent can give, but it’s not always effective. Parents can break this by setting limits and coming up with new words and phrases to wean the word no out of their vocabulary.
Say “Yes” But In A Different Way
Your tot might be asking you non-stop if they can have something while you’re at the store. If it’s right before lunchtime, you might want to say “No treats until lunch is finished.” Your child might react with a scream or throw themselves, and that’s okay. Get their mind off of the “treat” idea and point them over to the fruit section of the store. Tell your child. “Yes, you can choose an apple you would like before lunchtime.”
Explain Feelings To Your Child
If you’ve just experienced a child who throws themselves on the ground by not getting their way, it’s time to tell them they will hurt themselves. Let them know that they way they’re acting makes you feel sad. Even though it seems crazy to reason with a toddler, you’re actually teaching them self-expression at a young age. You’re explaining that their actions are affecting others around them.
Showing Them Differently
Your littlest child is messing around with their baby brother, pulling feet and not being nice. Instead of immediately saying no or “don’t do that”, show him what to do. Show your child what it means to love and be gentle instead of pulling and being mean. If you start to rub your child’s feet and legs, showing them how to treat their baby sibling, they will want to act this way.
Find Them Something Else
If your child wants to play with something that is off-limits, instead of saying no shows them something they can play with. It’s important to get involved with small children as much as you can, and try to stay connected to the fun their having.
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