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How To Raise Kids So They Aren’t Entitled

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How do we raise grateful, appreciative kids instead of entitled and spoiled ones? There are many different approaches when it comes to parenting, and we can’t really say one parenting method is right and another is wrong – however there are a few key things that will help you avoid raising a little entitled monster.

There is a brilliant piece online that addresses exactly this issue, “Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World.” Aside from the religious aspects addressed the mother writing the blog post makes a few excellent points. She takes a look at the world our kids are growing up in. With 17 billion dollars being put into the field of advertising, our children are growing up in a world where Marketers encourage consumption and “blur the line between wants and needs.” Growing up in such a way causes people to always be dissatisfied.

This family in particular has 9 different ways in which they are attempting to raise unentitled children, 8 of which any family can follow if they so desire.

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They expect hard work. They don’t make unrealistic promises. They stick to consequences. They limit “media” in their home. They expose their children to the world. They try to flexible and understanding with their rules. They let their children learn from their mistakes. They are purposely raising their children to be different.

The Huffington Post has taken a look at this issue as well, specifically from the point-of-view of a British Nanny. The nanny, Emma Jenner, has a lot of insight on this issue and also makes many great points.

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First, Jenner talks about parents being afraid of asserting themselves as the ones in charge, being afraid of tantrums. Next, Jenner discusses low expectations. This is where, “you teach people how to treat you,” comes handy. If you have taught your children that it is okay to throw tantrums, or have a messy room, they will continue to do so. Low expectations go hand-in-hand with parents using shortcuts which Jenner also addresses. Shortcuts such as electronic devices are not substitutes for parenting, and this is something that parents must remember! Lastly, parents must take care of themselves and make sure their needs are met just as they make sure their children’s needs are met. When children see that a parent is putting them before themselves, it subconsciously tells the child that they are more important than the parent – leading to entitlement.

Many articles have been written on this topic and we encourage you to do your research, however, there does seem to be a common theme in most of the advice given. Parents must be “present,” they must remember their role as parents and forget about being friends to their children, as this really just ends up being a disservice.

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