ItsNoBigDeal

It’s No Big Deal

ItsNoBigDeal

That phrase has become a mantra for me the last few weeks as I mull over my new-found attitude to parenting. Finding out, that for our little 4- year old, life can be a big deal or no big deal. I suppose I should have seen this coming. After all, when I was growing up my parents would always hesitate in reacting to my latest catastrophe until they knew what it meant to me. If I needed reassurance after falling off my bike while learning to ride, they would give it to me. If my reaction was to just get back on the bike and hope no one saw that fall, they would ignore it. I am learning to be the same with my own kids.

It’s No Big Deal

Sometimes as parents we forget that not every little event in our kid’s lives needs to be headlined in our lives. Yes, taking that first step or losing that first tooth is a mega event in most family’s lives. But when the third tooth is left for the tooth fairy, you can be forgiven if your kid tells you the next morning that the tooth fairy forgot him or her. Just smile, tell him tooth fairies get busy too but I bet they will come tonight, and set your alarm this time. It’s no big deal. If it isn’t for you it won’t be for him either.

Going With the Flow of Parenting

I guess this whole go with the flow thing is still something I need to learn. Luckily, I have come to realize I am not alone when it comes to gaining this particular skill. A recent article in the New York Times showcased parents who were upset because their Little League players didn’t get participation trophies. My guess is that the kids would not have noticed if the parents hadn’t made such a fuss. That doesn’t even begin to look at the crux of the story, the proliferation of kids getting trophies for showing up. Really, being in a sport is no big deal, unless you are a winning player. A trophy has no meaning if everyone gets one. Just as a tooth fairy missing an appointment has no meaning if you don’t give it one. So get with the program. Really, most things in life are no big deal, and kids are okay with that. As long as they know the real deal in your life is them.

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