Most children start non-complying around the age of two, and typically end up going through a tough stage. This happens because your little one wants to explore the world around them, finding themselves and their self-image. When your child doesn’t comply this is their way of telling you that they are their own person. So how do you minimize the non-compliance and increase your child’s listening when you’re talking?
Always follow through with your words
If your child gets into trouble, follow through with whatever consequence you have given them (positive or negative). Once you’ve told your child what to do, follow through with whatever consequence you’ve given them or else they will never think you’re serious. If your child obeys the first time, stay calm and tell them “thank you for obeying.” This will increase good behavior and they will want to follow directions.
Give on your child’s level
Some children have a tendency to learn that their parent will not follow through with what they have commanded until the third time of telling them to. The first thing a parent thinks to do when a child disobeys is yell across the room. Instead, try and not yell across the room for your child do something, instead get on their level and speak clearly to them.
Try and limit the amount of questions
Try a limit the amount of questions you ask your child because they will get used to tuning you out real quick. Try and give your child the opportunity to make a specific request by being there when they answer it.
Model good behavior when it comes to listening
A lot of the times, the best way to get your child to listen is showing them that you listen well. It’s important to try and talk with them and ask them how their feeling inside. After asking them to verbalize how they feel and you listen is very important. When their done, verbalize back to them what they said, and ask them if what you’re saying their feeling is correct.
Most importantly, be genuine
It’s important for you to be kind and sincere to your children, especially if you expect them to behave that way. Instead of telling your child to do something specific, ask them nicely to do it. This avoids a power struggle that could eventually occur.
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